What is bullying?Bullying is when a child or a group of children abuse their power to hurt others. Parents should remember that both the bully and the child being bullied need help. There are four main types of bullying that you should look out for: Verbal and written. For example, name calling, negative comments, intimidation, and threatening or humiliating SMSes. Physical. For example, bumping, scratching, shouldering, hitting, tripping, biting, rolling eyes or showing suggestive signs. Social or relationships. For example, gossiping (verbal or written), revealing personal information, manipulation of the child with a view to humiliation or exclusion from a group. Cyber bullying. For example, intimidating or harassing a child using a digital platform such as social networks.
What are the signs of bullying?Bullying can be identified by the following types of behaviour: deliberate aggression, an unbalanced power relationship between the bully and the victim, and the causing of physical pain and/or emotional anxiety. A bully can be identified by the following behaviours: they are aggressive and get into fights often, and they never take responsibility for their actions.
What are the effects of bullying?There are many effects of bullying that you can look out for. These include: faking illnesses to avoid having to attend school, a low self-esteem, social isolation, unexplained bruises and injuries, becomes upset after using the internet or cellphone, and becomes very secretive about online activities.
What are the consequences of bullying?There are many effects of bullying that you can look out for. They include: absenteeism and a fear of attending school, feelings of inferiority, self-esteem problems, feelings of loneliness, social isolation, emotional problems, communication problems, depression, struggle to achieve academically, some victims commit suicide, rule breaking, anti-social behaviour patterns, and risk of criminal behaviour later.
Prevention of bullyingOnce bullying has been identified, it is important to address the situation as soon as possible with the school, where appropriate measures and actions can be discussed and implemented. The Western Cape Education Department (WCED) has provided guidelines to schools on how to deal with bullying. Schools need to deal with bullying in terms of codes of conduct and intervene appropriately to support the victim and to change the behaviour of the culprit. Districts provide training and support on this issue as part of broader support on disciplinary issues. Teachers can use the following guidelines to prevent bullying: Provide a clear guideline for acceptable behaviour. Create class rules which state that bullying is unacceptable. All learners who are guilty of bullying should be called to account. It will send out a clear message that bullying will not be tolerated. It’s important that the focus shouldn’t be on punishment so much as on the changing of behaviour.
Support to the victimSupport to the victims of bullying is provided through: protecting them from further bullying, helping them to understand the bully's actions. This will enable them not to look for the cause of the bully's behaviour in themselves, involving them in educational games of therapy through which they can give expression to their feelings through drawing, writing, and drama, involving them in a support group consisting of other victims, and linking them with a different group of friends who will act supportively.
Cyber bullyingIf your child has a cellphone, they may be at risk of being cyber bullied. Bullying may occur through social networks, SMSes or emails. You can support your child by using the guidelines provided by South African Police Service (SAPS) listed below: Do not respond. If someone bullies you, remember that your reaction is usually exactly what the bully wants. Do not retaliate. Responding with similar threats reinforces the bully’s behaviour Save the evidence. Online messages can usually be saved and shown to someone who can help. Save evidence in case the bullying gets worse. Block the bully. Use your social media preference settings or contact the administrator to block an online bully. Reach out for help. Ask a trusted adult for help and support.